What a difference a day made

what a difference a day made...

2 interviews, 2 job offers, decide to accept one, back in business.

i will rem this date.

A letter to myself 10 years down the road

it's been some time since i blogged. some of you might have heard what happened to me, some might have guessed having reading my last post. Yup, i'm RE...

Aftermath? Post- thoughts? Having past 2 weeks since i last heard this news, i guess this two weeks have been... now, what's the best word for it?

I've been really conscious about how i felt the past two weeks. This news is something which many of us, especially those around my age dont really experience. Say... you are in your 1st or 2nd job? 3rd the max...minus those part-time, attachments and all.

Conscious because of what reason ? I dont think i have the full answer. I just know, i've been making mental points in my head. Take this week for example, i realize i've been taking out the same blue notebook i have in my bag everyday on the way to work, making a list of things i have/want/hope to do for the day/week, and checking the items out on the next day when i take out the notebook again as i jot down new stuffs. So far, the count is doing good. I dont get 100% checked off per day, but at least everyday, at least one item is checked.

They say "baby steps", they say "dream big", they say "unity is strength", they say " each to his own". Suddenly when everyone, irregardless of their seniority, expertise falls on the same boat with the same situation, an imbalance starts to surface. A very interesting phenomena is noted in the office. Wait, suddenly it's not an office where everyone go about their meeting... It's a forum, where everyone meet to discuss, not about work, not to complain about work.. but rather, the lack of work. I feel an emptiness, at the same time, an exciting anticipating at the new slate of path that might be ahead of me. Experiences were shared as we go around cubicles, gathering little spots to discuss over cup of coffee. Some sharing fond memories they have. Some sharing future plans. It's altogether... a very new thing to me.

To say, everyone took it the same approach is alit inaccurate. Some took it actively to seek new alternatives, some took it leisurely, happy at the chance to rest, to laze (if i should be able to use this work), some moping about, going round to see if there's new information for scoop.

I took abit of everything. This period is what everyone of you working will wish you have the time and resources i have now. I pride myself actually going to company resources self-help to learn about finance, read about negotiation skills while i continue looking at the market trend for openings available. I kinda helped an operator of mine teaching her MS excel, so that she can learn something and hopefully add it to her list of IT skills in resume. Frankly, i always thought i was a bummer at heart, but i din know i was not at all comfortable with wasting my time in office. I actually wanted to do something fruitful. So it was great when i could use the time to help this operator out. This is time, i'm thankful for this period. I had 2 great years in this department and tho it's sad counting down to its last wafer out day (yes, that's a term i have conjured LWO)... i've learnt so much and made great friendships. I'm amazed at my revised resume. hiaks. My manager has kindly reviewed it 3times. yes, it can mean two things, he's really concerned about my future and hence really want me to do a top-notch resume, or i really did a lousy resume.

Sigh, having added all that, i've been "arrowed" into a team to come up with a "closure" (i hate to use that term) souvenir for all of us. the "last arrow" they told me. *sigh*

I'm actually very positive about this whole thing. And to top it all, i've treating myself to little indulgences (yes those sensible friends of mine might shake their head and ask me to save for a rainy day instead).

Take today for example, i rate 4 star ****.
Went for a pedicure with my colleagues during lunch using mich's package deal but we pay her lah. i top up mine with another $4 for footscrub. Yeah, nice feet and toes and toe nails. it's feels equally disguisting and liberating to see that pile of towering dead skins on the towel where my feet rest.

Followed by a pretty fruitful day at work, i went back home, caught abit of "MR DEEDs" on cable. Btw, "the IRon MAN" is amazing! the lousiest thing about the movie was the title was totally under-rated and pushing potential audience away cos the title remains them of "the iron ladies", i gotta admit i was one of those until i watched the show and was totally convinced. Tony Starke is the man. He made us engineers feel proud, and at the same time freaking poor.

Oops, i have yet again diverted. Back to the star-studded day, so i came back home, watched a bit of "mr deed", the meaningful part where adam sandler asked the share holders if they all turned out what they wanted to be when they were little. Nope. I shook my head too, sadly the only difference between me and those share holders... i dont know what i wanted to be when i was little. or did i forget along the way?

I could not shout out loud what i wanted to be when i was little, but i seriously dont think engineer was the word i had in mind when i was 6. 'English' was possibly the closest word to 'engineer' i guess at that age, and i did pretty fine in english, if that was a sign.

Anyway, after the movie, i went for a nice warm shower, still admiring my pretty toes when i pampered myself to some DIY facial regime. Put the "wedding album" on my mini compo and was listening to "fallen" by lauren woods when i started blogging in the comfort of my room. How cool is that?

And now, i've more or less come to the end of my thoughts. It's time to take good night sleep. Beauty sleep is extremely important at this time of my life. First, i'm starting to age, we are aging all the time, but now, it's starting to show physically if we dont take care of ourselves, for example, i hate to write this down, but it will serve me good memory as i read this one day. I cant really do sit-ups already.... how depressing right? You think thin people has no problems. Think again. My sister was having the best laughs for the longest time while she see me struggles to get up.

oh "IF" by bread is playing now. A room filled with music that douses me to my bed.

Good night now, dear hooey, if u ever come back into this entry 10 years down the road, remember this. life is good, you are thankful for whatever comes your way, be it good or bad.

i've also been meaning to blog about the tragic natural disaster at myanmar and chengdu. Read the papers this morning, and felt a tinge of sadness seeing those pictures of post-destruction ruins.

R______ed at 26

today is the day when i fully immersed in the line" anything is possible" in HP.

Just imagine the big guy removing the thumb tack of his wall, that little red thumb tack off his world map.

With that, everything changes overnight.

My invisible bucket list

So do you have your own bucket list?

I too, hope to leave this world one day with "my eyes closed and my heart opened".

Actually, how do you define your own bucket list? yes, i know it's alist of things you hope to accomplish before one kicks the bucket. But what kinda things?

Is it...

Things which makes u happy, or things which make others happy?

Things which u fail to do? Or things which u like to do?

Meet People whom you never met? Or people whom u cherish and cherished you?

The failure to have the "best of both worlds" and yet knowing you are going to enter another new world from your current one depicts an emotion that is both depressing and yet, inspiring.

You know you are going to die, and suddenly, things become clear. Or at least that's why it's always shown in the movies.

And because i dont know when i'm going to kick the bucket, i think it's hard for me to come up with my bucket list at this very moment. I will not know the thoughts going through my mind, unlike "Tuesdays with Morrie".

However, the show did leave me pondering. Oh, i like to highlight i watched the movie alone.On the last day of screening island wide. I wanted to catch it alone in the first place. Felt it was something i could do without falling asleep or needy of someone's sleeves beside me should i fear or tear.

I'm glad i caught the bucket list. Even tho, i did tear in the end, with strangers beside me, it was nevertheless, an experience i will remember.

toubled versus troubles. Mutanted vs mutanting

ethics and mutants

"what falls within a range of ethical behaviour and what does not?"

I used to be intrigued with essays covering on moral ethics dilemma, especially those that go through depts with case studies in GP classes. Of course i don t do that now that i'm not doing A levels, and working just cease me from reading further.

Nowadays, i'm reading chick flicks, comics, and light news if i feel like reading.

Watching x men III again.

"is it cowardice to save one from persecution?"

"choosing the lesser of two evils"

i notice i like movies which show cases divergences in mystical powers... take harry potter, take xmen, star dust. Borders between magical and non magical (muggles), humans vs mutants.

everytime i want to blog, something distracts me and i'm lost my original thoughts.

Well.. i'm going to watch how they find phoenix.

Recharging

after a hiatus, i had to ponder a while on the last posting.

Took a weekend off overseas to recharge before returning to work. My partner is leaving the company this week and i'll be handling her stuffs temporary. Not exactly the most welcoming thing to do, but i guess i'll have to take it in my stride.

Recharged, relaxed after a good massage. Ready to face the uphill tasks ahead.

It's times like this i appreciate the extended offs.

Cant fight this feeling anymore

Unsettled feelings when options seem to be open for choosing. Imprisoned within the rails of options and consequences. The more options, the more liberating, the more stakes involved. Funny when you got no other options, or anything to lose, you end up braver.

What a paradox.

Given the freedom to choose, and yet, one cannot makes up his/her mind, clouding whatever perspectives which should be in place.

It's a weird world out there. How nice it is not to think or make any decisions.

Then again, is that a life worth cherishing?

Song inside my Head

Music and Lyrics "Way into Love"

I've been living with a shadow overhead
I've been sleeping with a cloud above my bed
I've been lonely for so long
Trapped in the past, I just can't seem to move on
I've been hiding all my hopes and dreams away
Just in case I ever need em again someday
I've been setting aside time
To clear a little space in the corners of my mind

All I want to do is find a way back into love
I can't make it through without a way back into loveOh oh oh
I've been watching but the stars refuse to shine
I've been searching but I just don't see the signsI know that it's out there
There's got to be something for my soul somewhere

I've been looking for someoneto shed some light
Not somebody just to get me through the night
I could use some direction
And I'm open to your suggestions
All I want to do is find a way back into love
I can't make it through without a way back into love
And if I open my heart again
I guess I'm hoping you'll be there for me in the endoh, oh, oh, oh, oh

There are moments when I don't know if it's real
Or if anybody feels the way I feel
I need inspiration
Not just another negotiation
All I want to do is find a way back into love
I can't make it through without a way back into love

And if I open my heart to you
I'm hoping you'll show me what to do
And if you help me to start again
You know that I'll be there for you in the endoh, oh, oh, oh, oh

Gadget

my new phone

i cried on my 26th birthday.

And yes, judging by the title, we all know what's up. I have officially left the early twenties range and time is not going stop alit slower for me just because i've attempted to do good or just being nice.

One year with 365 days, it's always been the same but somehow you just wish each year prolong its existance beyond 365 wishing it can extend to somewhat 730 so that it will be double the period before you get to see that birthday cake with those dreaded candles on them.


This year however, have proved much of a surprise when it comes to my birthday. So much that i cant help recalling what happened. How i have been taken for a ride, how i could have missed those possible signals. How i really really had a surprise birthday party.


how many of you attended a surprise birthday party?? I haven tho i watched many on TV.
Nope, i'm never too busy to forget my birthday, so i dont think i can EVER have a surprise birthday party, not this lifetime maybe, with the exception that Alzemier hits me before i can remember.


So, where was i?


Right, my surprise 26th birthday party.


It's really hard to put it into words what happened. But i cried.



div>yup, that more or less summarise the surprise party. i cried REAL hARD.

It's embarrasing if you were to ask me, what a way to leave the early twenties, how i greeted #26 with tears that overwelled me. Literally, much to the amusement of those @ the party. Oh, dont worry, you dont have to imagine, they have "kindly" etched those memories in the form of digital pictures which will probably stay with me for as long as i remember.

"I was angry, i was upset, i was trying to act happy, and then i was really happy, i was shocked and i was guilty and then i was confused as my face muscles were all contruded into mixed emotions, not knowing whether to cry or laugh."

Perhaps it's only logical to tell the story in a chronological form.

*oops prior to that, can i take the chance to thank my "EID" gang, actually it's really more of my "board gaming gang" who kick start the birthday thingy when we all meet up last week to celebrate giles + my birthday. I dont know who had more fun, they or me. Actually that's a silly question to ask, and i "swore" i will meet them only 2 years later. So i guess you know the answer.

Haha, still i had a good time with them. it was good catching up on old times, mainly my times. And to hear new updates, happy news about our friends. Well, if there's anything which cant wait two years, i appreciate you guys letting me via email or my blog. You all know how to contact me. HAHAHAHHAHA

*Aquarians' birthday cakes. apologies for lousy resolution. Still not very good with my camera phone. Didnt change the settings.

So, sorry back to the story on 22nd Jan. I met my squad to celebrate two of our birthday's : Hui ying and mine. Turns out i always share birthdays with someone, which is nice i feel!=), well, with the exception the other birthday girl didnt turn up and i was left with two cakes and many unflattering shots as i tried to get chips "aka the candles" out of my birthday cake. Still we had fine @ MINES cafe and i was happy.

with my lovely squad on tuesday@ clarke quay mines. Sigh, too bad some of them couldn make it last minute.

more poisonous games. 26 birthday already card #2,5,1 =@26. 25/1~ hahaha


the birthday cakes.

With my two favourite Vons in the world.
Here comes the unflattering shots. Me and allan testing out the face detection capability of my camera to my friends.
me doing something totally unglam.
Finally something decent with my birthday cake.

I spent a nice quiet 2 days just going to work and coming back home straight from work. Colleagues have been really sweet to me, surprising me with more birthday cakes. I feel really blessed to have them remembering my birthday, surprising me after my presentation and during my staff meeting.

My pretty colleagues celebrating my birthday after my presentation (me looking really shitty cos i woke up with sore eye. Boo)

They made me a card!=) love my lunch khakis, travelling companions in Melbourne.
Candid shot of me reading my birthday card. Geez, catch that surprise look.

Surprise birthday cake @ staff meeting, thanks to my photo colleagues. so sweet!!!=)




So the finally day itself 25th, after staff meeting and eating my very lovely secret recipe cake, i left office on time and met allan so that we can head home together, cos my family wanted to go out to eat, or celebrate at home with me.





This guy, of all days wanted to go check out his mobile, but in the end changed his mind when we reach kovan, he wanted to check out something for his mum. since it was on the way home, i agreed. Yet, after failing to find what his mum needed, he got hungry and he wanted KFC, by then i was already fuming inside, cos i didn want my family to wait up for me and also, i thought the purpose of going home was so we could eat, and this guy wanted to eat KFC because he was so hungry. And yes, my dear cannot go without food so i tolerated and sat there watching him buy his food.





Within a bite, however, he said, let's head home. He will packet the food and leave. And i was like... ??!!!!!!!!!!





He didnt even bother how i feel?!!! no doubt, i was pissed as he was eating but that doesn mean he should just packet the food after taking one bite right?!!! Boy oh BOY! i was so pissed at him i decided to keep quiet all the way back home. AND OF ALL THINGS, my handphone went down on me, so i didnt know if my family called to check why we were late, i was too pissed to borrow his phone to call back home to let them know too. So, i walked really quickly home, allan was darn surprised at my speed cos i was in pretty high heels sommore.





Not once, did he try to pacify me on the way back which was weird. Tad sad for me right? On my birthday somemore, but stil, as i approach the door step, i was feeling apprehensive cos i didnt want my family to know we had a fight, didnt want to worry them mah... So i paused before unlocking the door, trying to muster a big smile while that silly man was still behind me, uncertain of what he can do to cheer me up, when i suddenly heard a "HAPPY BIRTHDAY SONG" coming out of my house.....????





That's when i was greeted with this sight.. ignore the people, These were taken after my shock.



* my post shock pictures still tearing as i cant believe what they planned for me"

Of cos, i was agape! Someone took videos of me as i stepped into the house, there were poppers, thanks to my baby brother giving me a shock as i stepped into the house. There my sister go, looking all smirk!!! i was like????? "OH MY GOSH!!!!" and then my sister asked me to go into my room to put my stuffs..... i was like still so shocked at the birthday surprise.. when i saw...



MY FRIENDS!!!! iN MY ROOM!, all cheering and yelling "SURPRISE" when i turned on the light of my room, of cos my lovely sister had to take video of that too, and you can hear me saying.. "OH MY GOD!!" while wiping the tears of foolishness and happiness away. I FEEL SO DUMB!!! the party was all planned, allan deliberately lured me away from home so my friends could reach home on time!! I felt so stupid and guilty for shunning him, for ignoring him throughout the way home.

ARGh, stupid silly hooey. I had to compose myself CRY BABY. I told all of them to leave my room so that i can cool down and hide my embarrassment, wipe those tears, and drank all my friend's beverages which they left in my room so i could feel better. Sigh. I've been PUNKED!

and so, i got out later, we all had fun, laughed at me... i gathered pieces of information and yeah.. it's PARTY TIME>

The masterminds behind the big surprise party, my sister being the evil plotter, and allan the accomplice and of course, the victim being the birthday girl! Who ever heard of anyone crying on their birthday?!!! and with the pictures to show somemore.. darn! but hey, you only turn 26 once.
Well, i forgive and i forget. Of course, who can hate that lovable sister of mine, who went through so much to help plan this? And she makes one fantastic float! Yumyum! okay all tears dried though still red-eyed, i LOVE MY FAMILY! for planning this party for me. Ah dad is so shy he went into the room! haha
I'm so touched.
My friends recalling what happened, haha chatting over floats and sparkling wine.
You girls really got me. Who would have expect them to turn up after we met up on Tuesday!?!!! i LOVE THEM!

I really like to thank my wonderful wonderful sister and allan dear for making this possible. Thanks for making my 26th so bearable and sweet. and to my sweetest friends of over 10 years. My 26th birthday really marks a very memorable memorable day in my life. Having friends, family and my bf to celebrate my birthday.

I am blessed. It's really one special day in my life. 25 jan 2008.

* of course thanks to the many many of you who wished me happy birthday. you made my life very special by just being in it.

THANKS!!!!=)

My first post via my mobile

flowers photos taken in HK and China

crystals in its most natual form in its natural form
dew on flowers of Ocean Park

this was taken in San-Tou, my dad's old hometown

i really want to imrpove on my photography. Especially night shots and portraits.

hongkong dec07 highlights part1

family of blue-eye monsters!
my favourite Disney shot!!!

Yes! finally a traditional HK cafe's breakfast!!!!!!Vengence of the Glut!!

taking the ferry across to Hong Kong island

What do you want to learn?

it's the brand first day of 2008 and i just finished watching a great show on HBO.

"Accepted". It's a great show to kick start the new year and boy was i glad i decided to catch it while browsing through my smart playlist.

"Accepted" depicts a show where a group of college-rejected students got together to set up a fictitious college so as to avoid any more complaints, disgrunts from parents and relatives. It all started with a fake acceptance letter from the South Hampton Institute Technology (S.H.I.T) which later full blown to a dsyfunctional college running on its own with over 300 students because of a boogie website introducing SHIT!!!

Yes, it all started with a lie but how this lie came about and evolved into something which brought true meaning to gaining acceptance without deliberately trying. I think thats what's most important.

How often we seek the truth in everything we ruin the process by trying so hard to do what's right and good. To go through all the legal means and convincing ourselves that the right path to everything is truth. How we often demean lies of all form without giving a chance to find out why the lie came about.

How S.H.I.T differs from any college which truely strikes me in the show...

1) There are no official teachers or faculty. Students are the teachers. They learn from one another.

2) Cirriculum?? There are no fixed classes. You decide what you want to learn, and write them on this huge white board that's centered in the middle of the hall way. Plastered right on top of the white board is " WHAT DO YOU WANT TO LEARN?", you write down your thoughts, you say out what you want to learn and you just set up something. Those who are interested will follow along, and there you have it== A Class.

Seriously this show really brought meaning to .." a class of your own"

3) Education is to simulate creativity and passion for learning. What a line, and how colleges today "truely' adhere to this motto.
haha, in SHIT tho, it's a ficitious college, i saw that happen, and while i'm just someone viewing it over the TV box, can you believe if the college actually exist?

The show actually compared with another top-brass college where u see people falling asleep in lectures, some fervently taking lecture notes, some being bullied real time for simply looking different from others (out cast because they look nerdy, or fat, or weird just because they choose to do laugh when nobody does or talk of things which aint the most hop topic....=> familiar?)


So, i was really inspired after the show. If someone were to ask you " What do you want to learn?", what would you say?

1) ....
2) .. What?
3).. i thought that's what the school's supposed to do?
4)....Hmm, i have really never thought of it.
5) What i want to learn aint going to make me big bucks
6) Nah, my parents think it's useless stuffs
7) it's not offered locally

Why? Truth be told, i dont have an answer for that question the moment it was shoved into my face. Why? Is it because there's nothing i want to learn? Or, i have really just been taking things for granted, taking whatever is coming my way? And why should that be the way? Are we not students? even if we are no longer studying, are we not always seeking something new to learn? So why should that stop after school?

It saddens to know, the process of learning was not heightened even when we are in school. imagine how it would go after leaving school?

So, now that we left... how has physics 101 help you achieve your dreams? in "Accepted", students want to learn to do skateboarding stunts and learn to apply certain theories in physics to better help execute moves.

The technical "classes", helped them create signboards, set up a small bar which was what they wanted to do when they want to learn to concoct certain cocktails to serve by the pool.

Let's not forget those who have a passion for eating, they learn to cook and serve those people who eat their food while going about their other classes.

I guess, you can picture what i'm saying. You have a passion for something you want to learn something, and when u seek to achieve them, you learn other things in return...

That's how life should be, there is no designated roles when it come to teaching and learning. Everyone can be a teacher and student. And it should be the way.

Why is it so important to gain acceptance, so much so to give up who you really are? Dont ever compromise that...

i'm glad i'm feeling like this. It's feels like a great start to the new year.

Happy new year 2008! Now, to go have my dinner.

Btw, had a really good time with the girls counting down to 2008. I'm glad some things never change.

New Year Resolution for 2008 and recap 07

It's the last sunday of 2007 and since i dont think i will be around tomorrow night to blog about my new yaer resolutions, i thought i should do it tonight (begin the last entry of 2007).

I have long forgotten the last time i wrote down any new year resolution. Maybe i did lastyear, but i dont remember, which really isnt much of a good thing if you ask me.

Off hand, i cant really think of specific goals for 2008, nor do i have the energy to recap my 2007. However, it has been a good year for me. i' feel blessed with the people around me. My bf has been really supportive this period and it was a memorable year, a year i grew, workwise and emotionally wise.

If there's anything i like to continue improving for year 2008:

1) to continue counting my blessings (thankful for the people who love and care for me)
2) To extend the love given to me to others (must learn to care more and appreciate)
3) To save more $$$$$$$!!!!!target: 10 k! *i'm not as ambitious and capable as yc *
4) To improve on my physical self ( yes, this is highly superficial but i have long long wanted to gain some good weight and remove those stupid blemishes that's perpetually taken residence on my face)
5) To elaborate on point 4: I hope my braces will be removed!!!!!
6) Organise.. (i'm working on this, i can feel it but i think i can still be improved)

Just to highlight some of my 2007 "hall of fame"
Travel:
1) Melbourne
2) Hanoi
3) Batam
4)Hong kong China
Work:
1) Organize a HP mega event( celebration)
2) award for my research
3) Recognized @ work

Family:
1) Moved house!!!!!
2) Kick started Christmas presents to family!
3) planned and designed own room with sister
4) "celebrated" youngest bro's turning 18 @ zouk
5) family trip to HK-china *the previous flight trip we took was 10 years ago!!!*
6) Visited my family roots in San-tou

Relationship:
1) Spent one year anniversary
2) First Birthday surprise by dear with HP
3) First overseas trip.
4) First squad overseas trip
5) Kj and eveie's wedding!! * hen party included*
6) Planning b2's wedding!
7) Attended hanwen's very lovely christmas party
8) Dear's convo
9) First scrapbooking experience: For Dear and Hanwen's Birthday
10) an overdue cooking attempt @ pasta for the family with bf
Money:

1)
2)
3)
* as u can see it's all empty*

Alright, that's all i can think. I feeling drowsy. i'm praying for more in the year 2008! Same goes to everyone. Happy New Year!!!!

I love weekends like this

it's been a good weekend.

Taking the kids to national library, blowing little space bubbles for them, watching them jump in that air filled playground, playing snake and ladder with my oldest pal, watching the kids do art and craft, holding little hands, chatting to them as journeyed to and fro.

And then today, was with TC clan planning how to go about "torturing" the groom and his buddies when they are going to pick evie up next week. And it's back... first extended family gathering in the new place. I like the feel of it, everyone laughing over a good meal, sharing views on places to go, tips of what to do when we go hongkong, giving comments on our rooms.

It's been a good weekend.

When you wish upon a star

you should so watch stardust if you are into:
1) harry potter
2) pirates of the carribean
3) alittle macbeth
4) romance

It fits my bill!=)

The equilibrium state of men and women

i know i should be returning this to my sister, but while she hasnt come bothering me yet, i tot i could just squeeze in one more post.

was reading some blog entries of people i dont know personally and it's ironic to note how these "strangers" actually invade my thoughts more often than close ones around me.

The topic of interest: Men and women.
Girl's point of view. Boy's point of view.
Started ever since Adam and Eve? Ancient topic but never fail to spur the interest or spark off a friendly debate.

Why are we so different?
OR,

Do we think we are different because we are brought up to think that we are?

Why do books, articles, movies, media always make us all unsatisfied with the counterpart?

Why are men unsatisfied with what they have?
And why are women unsatisfied with what they have? or have not?

It's so typical. Confronted with a situation of unsatisfied needs, men are sterotyped to do "out-sourcing". *in today industrial terms*. In the case of women, we are stereotyped to re-enforced what wewant, some nag (soft approach), some kick up a tantrum, breaking up (hard approach), some resorted to crying and breaking down (last approach) to get what they want.

It's like if we were to use economic terms.(gee, sister came in to ask if' i'm done, gotta summarise).

Guys get the desired quantity by increasing the supply ( increasing the odds of getting what they want, out-sourcing if they fail to get it from one)

Ladies get the desired wishes by adjusting their demands on guys. They do realize, it comes a point, if they were to increase their expectations (hence increasing the demand), they are unable to get the equilibrium state (negotation point). And beyond this point, (if guys should choose to leave and not compromise), they will be "left" in an unstable "market" state.

(point to note, the inverse can happen)


It's becomes a give and take situation.


alright gotta go... sister rushing me. i cant finish.

What i was up to exactly one year ago

i was looking through my mobile to upload some pictures of evie's hen party to my lappie when i noticed last year on 11 nov i took pictures... and guess where?



I was with the girls at sentosa attending angela's mum company family day event. We played twister at sentosa much to the amazement or rather amusment of others who took refuge in one of the shelters as the weather wasnt really helpful.



Evident of our fun.

*blue-toothing to lappie*

That's vonnie on twister. looking good..."Oh... Twist again, like we did last sunmmer... oooooooo"
Me on bungee... mini scale. looking so happy... oh, the calm before the storm. I was yelling my head out when i was being shot up.

first sunday at new place.

Sunday afternoon

It's so nice all sprawled across my queen size bed blogging on this nice (not too hot, not too cold that i rather snuggle in bed) kinda afternoon.

i finally got hold of my lappie after my late breakfast. Caught up with my friends' blog. Said hi to a couple of friends online and now just filtering, cleaning up the photos on my memory card.

i have like taken over hundreds plus photos over the past one month and i have yet to compile, upload them yet.

Spent last weekend with the girls at Batam and it was good fun.

With me taking my camera almost everywhere over the last month, it was awfully depressing to note, i left home without it yesterday when i met the girls for eve's hen party.

I love technology. I am transferring photos of last night from my mobile to my lappie as we speak. Sweet.

At the same time i'm uploading photos from my memory card to flickr. darn, i exhausted my usage for the month with just one upload.

********

Anyway, i have so many things i want to update, by the time i managed to secure a spot on my lappie and on blogger after (reading others' blog), one sibling would come to me and ask if i'm finished. Darn.

so, just let me jot down the things i like to update
1) Hanwen's birthday
2) my dinner and dance
3) my new room
4) my new house for the matter
5) my batam weekend trip (wakeboard + spa)
6) evie's hen night party (yesterday)
7) Me spending 2 1/2 hours in orchard alone reading story book and drinking coffee @ coffee bean yesterday
8) my plan to save lotsa money
9) girls'planning trip to france and greece next year

Before i go, let me just upload one picture i taken before i started using the lappie this afternoon. My first sunday spent at home. (last weekend was spent at batam)

My lappie on my bed with my comforter in my new room on the first sunday afternoon. Letting some sun in.