I'm learning something new everyday. Like the catchphrase--it aint over till the fat lady sings.Never count your chickens before the eggs hatch. Always predict the unpredictable...
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Emotions
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Sunday, September 05, 2010
Changed Look: The Blog
Yesterday marks a really interesting, thought-provoking event as the fiance and I attended the Pre-Marriage course. I added in my facebook profile that i felt like " Mr and Mrs Smith" because we spent 8 hours on this couch with the counsellor/ expert, let's call him Mr X, who asked us questions, exploring our relationship, view points, making us share some personal, intimate details.
I guess Mr X is now the 3rd person in the world who knows more about us other than us.
If there's one key take-away from the course, it would be...remember: "you sacrifice yourself, not for the other person, but for the relationship"
If i ever find myself in a situation where i have to compromise, do not think it's because i've lost and the other party's won, you do so.. because of the relationship, not because of him vice versa.
Whatever we do from now on, it's all for the good for the relationship.
The moment we say " i do", we are one. We were two individuls, but we are now going to do everything, discuss everything as one.
We do have certain agreements as a couple when we did the questionaire/ personality tests.=)
What the Mr X really appreciate about allan is that, when asked why he doesn pick up a quarrel or why he doesn flare up when i may seem unreasonable, the reason allan gave, was :
" it's not i couldn continue the quarrel, or rebutt her to win the argument, I just dont see the value in prolonging the fight, or making her upset further, when it's some small issue"....
I teared for the 2nd time i hear this. I teared the first time i heard this when he first said that to me in the car not too long ago, when i was worried about him, having not really flared up at me before, was thinking aloud if he might just be a dormant volcano and i will have no idea what he's really after marriage. *finger crossed*
That's where Mr X, nodded in agreement and added " Pick your fight". Do not choose to fight all the time and win for the sake for winning. Conflicts are bound to be present, but if you must fight, Fight for something meaningful, not petty stuffs.
He has his flaws, I had mine, but knowing he's going to be the one who's going to tolerate me for the rest of my life, makes me feel thankful.
I also noted, in the course of this relationship, more often than not, i find myself wanting the fiance to improve this, to improve that. And yet, one thing i'm so appreciative of him is that, he never asks for me to really change, although he do has his fair share of complaints for me. He's concerned about my health, some of my eating habits, but all in all, he really appreciates me for who i am.
We might not be prepared to know everything that's coming our way, but we covered some grounds? Some scope of what marriage encompass and while we dont fully complement each other, ( we even failed in some aspects, if you based on figures), it's assuring to know, even after Mr X's blunt discussions and questions, scary facts, statistics, after sharing some really personal experiences, we were still smiling at each other, Freaked by some stuffs, but still hand-in hand as we left the centre.
And like the movie in Evan Almighty ( which i'm watching as i blog), even when your partner can confuse you with some bizzare actions, words; even when your partner seems to be going through some tough times, when times are hard.. stay by him/ her. A famly stays together no matter what, and be supportive of each other.
Quote from the movie: "When someone pray for patience, do you think God gives them patience, or does he give them the opportunity to be patience?"
Very meaningful.
Gosh, I think this can be my wedding vows if i continue my train of thoughts...
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Wedding Update:
a) Bridal Package- Settled
b) ROM Make up- Settled
c) Photography - not yet
d) ROM Dress- not yet
e) Music - not yet
f) Readiness- <50%
g) Mental Strength- climbing up!=)
Sunday, August 29, 2010
My very thoughts-ful day
Ok, now to take a pause from these and go down to get a milk. Be right back.
Back from my short walk to the convenience store.. and thought it would be best to summarize my thoughts for today.
1) Integrity seems to be everything..
2) I miss my hall life
3) As one grows older, one has lesser friends to meet up and hang out with
4) A hug is all that is make me feel better...
5) Toasting to a cup of milk with your loved ones at the end of the day, him with his soya milk, me with my chocolate milk. A way to make those blues away.=)
Love,
Hooey
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Austin thoughts
Just that i got in here way too early, andit's 2 more hours before my flight to Atlanta! Last leg of my US trip, beginning of my holidays!
I just log on facebook but was unable to find anyone online to chat. I bought a DVD to watch in the event i got bored but i left it in the check in bag. Duh!
And i know i probably will not be able to hog the kiosk for too long. Actually, no one is around, but tmy legs cant take it much longer. On the other hand, i'm afraid i fall asleep!
Mylast night in Austin was great. Oliver showed me around Down Town Austin. We hiked around Town Lake. It was just so relaxed and the sights were so pretty. We then went on to see dinner at TGIF near the bridge where we were able to watch for Bats! Yes, there's a colony of Bats living in downtown Austin and people from all over the world gather to watch them as they fly out of the bridge just moments after sun set. However, as the summers' daylightwas long, it was rather dark and late n=by the time the bats came out.
And top it all, i had the chance to breeze through sixth street checking out Texas music as Oliver drove me back to my hotel. All in all, i'm so glad i've kinda completed the key things/ highlights of Austin Texas and add in those nature charms. I like seeing folks jogging around the town lake, known as ladybird lake. I lilke seeing dogs running after their owners. Owners playing fetch with their dogs, people training for their marathon, kids playing in the green green grass, folks rowing their canoes, kayaks and race boats, cyclists, different birds chirpping. Gosh, it was a great feeling to be in the midst of all these. at that instance, i felt i was part of it all, and yet, also an observer. It's incredible.
And let's not forget the sunset. i love the sunset in Austin. I love sunset fullstop. However, Austin offers a great view, and as you just watch sunset each day, you cant help appreciating life and mother nature in all it's glory. No matter how busy, and tired, homesick one may be, watching the sunset just makes me feel at ease. at least for me. =)
Well well, i haveabout 1.5 hours to go. Wish me luck as i end this post.
Live Well,Laugh Often, Love Lots.
Sunday, July 25, 2010
US thoughts.. while in USA

When you grow older (well, i'm starting to feel this), the need for dependency, the knowledge that there's someone there, really there for you and you're his priority, really calms one down even when one's flustered. Knowing there's someone who's on the lookout for you, who wants to know exactly what's happening, where you're staying, what you're doing. I feel safe just knowing that, even if he's not around. Security without physical presence. I cant quite explain.
Monday, July 05, 2010
Love
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Wishing, and hoping, and praying, and Thinking
Nope, just check and yup, it's been a mere 4 months but alot has happened. At least to me.
I'm pleased to note there are people who comment on my blog. Thanks! It's nice to read them and i think part of it just inspires one to continue making one's thoughts visible, readable.
Not sure what sparks me to start blogging again, but I've always enjoyed reading my old posts. So i guess, the main motivation is that i'll never lose sight of myself. Oh so cliche... one might say, but hey, these are mine to own.
Have only started proper wedding preparation since the last few weeks, I've always envisioned taking some snapshots during the preparation. Thought it will give me a warm feeling when i look back on the preparation work, the hassle, the fun, the liaising, the frustration even. Good to note them down, however, it's just so much harder when you're the first person. So weird to be taking pictures for e.g while discussing stuffs with the banquet manager? Haha, or trying the bands?
Allan has been great for the past few weeks. He's the one liaising with all the necessary, doing the follow-up as i've been really tied up at work, coupled with the possible prospects of getting a new job. (which I turned down the final interview). I turned down because i didnt want think this job would be something i want to pursue. It got me thinking if i'm starting to settle into comfort zone and hence was hesitant with the many changes that might be coming my way.
However, once i made my mind about the job, I was able to focus on the Project - our wedding.
There's always a little princess, in every girl. Well, i guess I didnt fall out of that. it's fun, but tiring.
Although i have never dreamt about my wedding when i was 10 or 16, like all girls, I thought of a beautiful event when it's time to plan.
Beautiful, not in the sense glamourous,
Beautiful, not in the sense Colourful,
Beautiful, not in the sense of Luxurious,
Beautiful, not in the sense of everything pretty
Beautiful, not in the sense of all things rich.
Beautiful, in the sense of smiles and grins so wide
Beautiful, in the sense of flower girls running down the red carpet
Beautiful, in the sense of sweetness of invites, favours and flowers
Beautiful, in the sense of excitment of close friends and family
Beautiful, in the sense bringing my bridal mag to share with the girls and we having a good time just jotting new ideas, dresses.
Beautiful, in the sense of trying out my very first gown (with my mum), and sharing that thought with closed ones
Beautiful, in the sense of couple deciding on things both big and small
Beautiful, in the sense of checking the wedding band, and having the customer service laughing at him because of his weird sense of humour
(the same happened with the lady at the hotel, what to say.. i have a funny fiance)
Beautiful, in the sense of sharing ideas and themes ( if any) with the photographer ( him, being surprisingly quiet but smiling as we browsed through the portfolio)
Beautiful, in the sense how wedding tend to bring out others' sharing their experiences ( the manager, the photographer)
Beautiful, in the sense how inspirations, thoughts coming your way as you share (sharing them over phone conversations, through photographers, planner)
Beautiful, in the tears that may flow as emotions are bared
Beautiful, in the sense music's in the air ( especially when we spend an hour or two just listening to tracks, and reminscing on songs that meant something)
Ultimately Beautfiul, in the sense of bringing my closest one together leading to our eventful day.
Every little thing now leading to the event is beautiful. Yup, not necessary smooth-going, but there's a sweet rustic charm. Knowing, this will be the first and only time you will planning something so meaningful and sharing it with those who matters.
Tuesday, February 09, 2010
Shibuya breakfast (post dated)
I have to head back to hotel early tonight for a teleconference or u could perhaps try some sightseeing. Darn, I left the map in the hotel.
Just wanna add: people here are purposeful. Image: old mAn with red writing scribblings on newspaper. Using an electronic dictionary. With book and specs beside him.

Random thoughts:
Japanese crows. Big. Wonder if they met Singapore crows.
Like the concept of airport limousine bus.
Charcoal in water. Vendor machine dispensing coupons. No receipt for dinner.
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Saturday, January 16, 2010
Books on a Saturday

Looking forward to the family trip in less than a month!
Side note, here is the luxurious brunch at mimolette after my hike with my hiking buddies aka my siblings ( haha, the first trip to bukit timah).

My breakfast eggs benedict.
January is turning out to be smooth and nice.
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Sunday, January 03, 2010
Sweets of the past?
However, I know I am not going to find there anywhere soon and had to, hence, settle for sweets. Sour sweet. I used to buy those candy that is wrapped in foil and a yellow label. The hard sour kind, but not many places carry them already. Only those sugar coated kind which... Ain't really my kind.
So, I third settled for this.

Which I took a picture in case, one day it's extinct too. Me and my ramblings. Enjoy the sours!
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Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Bus tune on last Wednesday of 2009
That makes me scared, alright
This could be nothing
But I'm willing to give it a try
Please give me something
'Cause someday I might know my heart
Hooey glancing out as she nods with the song.
Year end typically strikes me more than year start.
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Monday, December 28, 2009
Last Monday of 2009
I dunno why this song kept coming back to my head even tho it's 3 days past xmas.
I always envisioned this song with a quiet snowy scene. One perhaps walking along the ice lake with the woods on the other side. Looking around, with somewhat a lonely feel to it, yet reminding oneself to be cheerful for it's Xmas. And then, the Christmas carols can heard further up the path. A Cosy looking home with Xmas lighting seen through the window panes. ..
Have yourself a merry little Xmas day.
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Wednesday, December 16, 2009
Hearing/listening
It just seems overtime, I had the 2 mixed up. And now, I have been reminded how I haven really been doing the latter.
I know, habits happen because of repeatability. Good or bad, they take form once it's started and gains momentum.
If you stopped listening, you might just not get the chance to. If you just hear, the other can sense you are not listening, and might just grant you your wish of not sharing. And all you hear eventually, is just silence.
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Friday, December 11, 2009
Public commute
Cut the story short. I missed Tokyo. I miss the quiet when one shuttles.
It's not all about giving up your seat only and
blabbering, complaining loudly, playing games with the sounds full blast.
It's also giving peace to your fellow commuters. Being understanding with one's words or rather silence along with actions.
Monday, November 16, 2009
Way to work - Monday
Feeling normal, no signs of monday blues kicking in which is rare and nice. Recalled mum chidding me for not having seen me for the past 2 days. Busy little bee.
Yes, I do feel disjointed here. I like to attribute it to the fact that it's Monday rather than that I 'm getting old and uninterested altogether. Surely my thoughts would have materialize into actions and in place, comes newer, fresher thoughts?
Been hanging out alot with the girls, tcc, justians, even when I'm not physically with them, I will be uploading pics. Looking at pics of them. And now, it seems my primary school girls has caught up. Thanks to cand who dug up hideous yet pricless pics of yesteryear. She's so great with scrapbooking that I have no doubt she will turn those yellowish tinge of geeky snapshots to great master pieces.
I'm half way to work now. The cold has settled in and we are off the expressway.
Let's see if there is any mini goals I like to set for this week.
1. Practice the guitar.6 weeks left. Let's target 2 chords. Smooth transition required before passing for this week.
2. I think a trip down to salvation army is necessary. Like Sisi mentioned: I'm hopeless with my wardrobe. My clothes are now hanging off the window grills.
I think 2 goals are sufficient for now. Let's kill the cows a step at a time.
P/s: embarrassed to admit, but it's true for me. It feels good to be engaged.Nothing has changed. Just a ring on the finger, and a promise which both work to fulfil in a lifetime. It would be nice if the guy gets an engagement token as well. Hmm... Wonders.

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Monday, October 26, 2009
5 mins of bliss
There was only time for him to send me to bus stop from my block.
He told me ( over the phone ) that his brother's fan got locked in the cabinet and there were no keys.
I heard : his brother's friend got locked up in the cabinet with no keys. Instanteously tot of joey locked in his tv cabinet.
Shared with dear, we had a gd laugh. And there I was at my bus stop.
And there was : my 5 mins of bliss.
And somehow, you know : this is going to be a great week because of how it started.
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Tuesday, October 20, 2009
The day I said " yes "
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Monday, October 19, 2009
Shanghai - Hangzhou ( rather disjointed blog)
I had lots to unpack, lots to organize, photos to upload, memories to update. That is perhaps, the most tedious part of travelling - - the post moterm, and the re-settling back to your current lifestyle, work, place.
A couple of highlights from this trip==
One of the things which bugged me initially and which i've gotten better with practice was explaining/ repeating to people that i'm alone.
Eg: ( all in Mandarin)
At the cafe: Table for how many?
ME: 1
Waiter: 1 only?
Me: Yup, 1 Only
Waiter: ( glances around to confirm)
Me: Yup I'm alone
Or...
At the Taxi Stand queuing:
Group of guys (GOG): Miss, alone taking the cab?
Me: yup
GOG: That's so not economical, why dont we share?
Me: No, thanks
GOG: Where are you going? Maybe it's on the way?
Me: I doubt so.
GOG: Why are you alone?
Me:... * feign ignorance*
OR....
At the river cruise:
Boat man: How many of u miss?
Me: 1
Boat man: 1 only?
Me: Yup
BOat man: Want to book the boat?
Me: No thanks
Boat Man: Then you got to wait
Me: okay.. ( sits on boat and wait) While he questions why i'm alone at West Lake...
OR EVEN....
at the conference:
3mmer: When you heading back?
Me: 17 Oct
3mmer: Visiting Supplier??
Me: Heading to Hangzhou
3mmer: With your boss?
Me: No.. alone
3mmer: Alone?? a girl?
*Explains again...*
Anyway, back to the highlights!
1. Ventured out alone in the streets of Shanghai, the bund, had a nice cuppa coffee
2. Queuing up for cabs with the locals ( at night in Shanghai, and day at Hangzhou Train station)
3. Tried Beef Stomach ( would never have done that in Singapore)
4. Had 3 shots of Chinese Rice Wine (Lethal: 53% Alcohol Content)
(photo courtesy of Kristin, who insisted i drink (can see the flushed face) I believe, the arm behind me belongs to Brian.
5. Followed by chinese massage after that (Masseurs commented that we reek of alcohol)
The Chemical & Polymer Folks From Left: (representing US, China, Singapore), Mr Korea is still stuck at his massage. All of us with our messy hairdo.
6. KTV with Managing Director
7. Our bus got a traffic violation ticket from the Police (having drove into the wrong One-way Street)
8. Boss concocted Gin-tonic for me
9. Learnt a little about pearls
10. Tried Nan-Xiang Xiao Long Bao
11. Took Train to Hangzhou alone (with no itinerary in mind, except to go West Lake)
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13.Took a Stranger's car ride up to Long Jing Mountain to buy Long Jing Tea Leaves ( negotiated fare: 10 Yuan equivalent to about slightly more than 2 SGD)
14. Cycled around West Lake
15. Made a few international friends ( all 3Mmers), actually we all corresponded through emails some point in time, but it's really nice now, to be able to put a face with the name.
Was really fortunate to be able to go for this trip, to meet and learn from the commodity leaders. I really enjoyed myself, and never knew that i would explore anywhere alone ( in China).
Having called my mum ONLY after i reached Hangzhou station that i will be spending the night there alone. ( Her reaction was mixed, worried and at the same time surprised that i was capable of doing that! I guess all the while, she assumed i was just thinking aloud, not intending to do that since i did not make any plans or research whatsoever).
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I really enjoyed myself on my first night, having reach the hotel at about 6pm, i settled down and left the hotel at about 8 pm to ask for recommendation of where to go at the bund for dinner!
I reached the river, and i just started snapping away, as i reckon ( once my boss, my boss's boss is here in Shanghai, there's probably alot of entertaining and meetings, and other obligated visits), and i took like hundreds of pictures that night? No doubt, i was really silly taking self portraits, much to the amusement of those beside me.
I've never been to Shanghai before this, and the first thing i noticed when i reached was how much constructions were going on, be it residentials, commerical buildings, roads, highways, train lines. All hyped up and scheduled to be read for the World Expo 2010 that's happening in Shanghai next year.
The pace is fast, it's very modern, it's really safe to take cab anywhere by yourself and the cab fares' relatively cheap.
This video took me eons to upload onto blogger, but i really wanted to share it, It's not exactly a fanstic video,rather grainy effects . However, I was enchanted if you may, by the violinist and she was also part of the reason i parted with 30 yuan to buy a cup of coffee and sat by the river, enjoying the music in the relatively chilled air in Shanghai. Yes, no doubt, i was feeling alone, but strangely, that was also the nicest part of it as i sat there.
No obligation to check if anyone want to leave for shopping, or wanted to sight-see elsewhere, or wanted to just go indoors because it was cold! It was just me, myself and my trusted camera. Hiaks. Was deliberating whether to bring my DSLR, but mum advised not to since this is afterall, still a business trip and what's a girl lugging so much stuffs? (on hind sight, very wise advice)
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Pearl TV Tower? KL Tower. ( I just took the pic from fB, hence the small pic)
Friday, October 09, 2009
Thursday, October 01, 2009
"women your age"
Maybe Magic is not the best word for it, since it's heading for the negative reaction instead of wonderful concoctation.
Am I at that trigger age already? Or perhaps, still a few years to play with before i hit the big "3"0.
To me, it's really not a big deal, it's part of the fun, acting as tho it matter so much, that you wish time will just creep, or better still, for ever 2 years forward you move back 4 years backwards. This way, you gain the wisdom, and lose the wrinkles.
I'm down the garden flu. That's what my doc said. And pretty much bed-ridden. Psychologically, i feel i'm getting sick more easily than i did in previous years. Mum said i lost the fighting spirit.
Yesterday, when i was at the clinic, i saw this girl who was waiting outside the clinic along with the rest of us who formed a small queue. She was pacing up and down, dragging her slippers in her AJC PE-Tshirt and carrying a laptop with some notes. She gave out this negative vibe as though she's frustrated.
So when the clinic opened, we all walked in, and she actually cut my Queue. Without any shame. She took her card and placed at the counter when i have done so. The lady over the counter asked "Who's next?"
She actually said "me". Much to the first couple (who got queue #1)'s surprise. So that AJC girl got #2, and i got #3.
I cant be bothered to fight it out with her, although i was pissed myself. And then i found out she was from T$%% ( a wafer fab company). She's actually working!
When i told Allan this, he was like "what made you think she was younger?", and to my surprise, i told him " I guess, i started noticing more people younger than me now ".
That's the truth.